How To Deal With A Break Up While In Quarantine — Cosmopolitan Sri Lanka

Dealing with a break up while the world is seemingly ending can be one of the most unfortunate things that can happen to you. There’s no right time for going through a separation, but it’s the ideal time considering quarantine, self-isolation and/or curfew leading to you hanging out with me, myself and I. No more emergency sleepovers with your favourite gals, no more quick trips to the supermarket just to stock up on that ice cream you’ve been binging on. If you’re about to completely lose it, here’s the secret to keeping your cool during all the COVID-19 social distancing drama.

Do note, you won’t completely get over someone during this time, but what you can do is control the damage until we can see daylight again. Take it from someone who knows.

As cliché, as it sounds, writing down your feelings is the key to self-awareness. Sometimes the overwhelming emotions you feel can be irrational so pouring it all out on paper can help you identify patterns that will help you in the long run. I promise, you’ll feel so much better afterward.

How do you identify your triggers when everything around you is just a reminder of your former S.O? It may be a lotta things, but it’s not everything. You know those forever flowers he gave you for Valentine’s day? Put ’em away girl! It may be a nice ornament on your dining table now, but subconsciously it still reminds you of him. So get rid of it asap!

I have nearly 6 meltdowns a day (!!!) and I’ve found that making fun of myself eases the pain to some extent. You know those instances when you need someone to make you laugh or smile? You don’t have to wait. You’re completely capable of doing it on your own. I named my 4th breakdown for the day Hurricane Gloria, so every time I feel myself having a breakdown, I make myself laugh.

Yes I know, we should NEVER talk to strangers, but desperate times call for desperate measures. Talking to a stranger provides you with a non-judgemental space for you to vent out your feelings. You can call the Courage, Compassion, and Commitment (CCC) foundation on their hotline, 1333, to completely voice your thoughts and get professional help from a therapist over the phone. Pro tip: they don’t charge you for the call either, so you don’t have the added worry of running out of credit!

Whether you’re watching a movie or baking a cake, it doesn’t matter! All you have to do is keep yourself occupied to take your mind off whatever is bothering you.

Bottom line ladies: We can’t completely make the grief disappear, but what we can do is manage it. There will always be a silver lining! For more tips on staying sane in general, head here

Originally published at https://cosmomag.lk on March 25, 2020.